after starwind support said they couldn't replicate my issue, I dug into the log, to see what the difference in a vmfs5 ramdisk format, and a vmfs3 ramdisk format looks like.
I came accross this, which only happens on the same sector in the vmfs3, but has multiple lines in the vmfs5.
copy of both logs(post vmfs3 format, and post vmfs5 format):
http://bsmokeman.no-ip.biz/fileshare/ramdiskcompare.zip
basically the vmfs3 format that succeeds has a repeat of this line, same sector number:
12/9 23:03:40.892 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 49724, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
repeats this one line 13 times in the whole log.
while the vmfs 5 format that fails, has this(seems to be 2048 lines, then starts over at first glance, 98725 rows total.
had to trim this, look at zip file for entire log
12/9 22:23:05.133 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 2048, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.225 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44688, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.225 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44689, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.226 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44690, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.226 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44691, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.226 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44692, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.228 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44693, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.228 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44694, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.228 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44695, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.229 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44696, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.229 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44697, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.230 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44698, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.230 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44699, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.230 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44700, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.231 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44701, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.231 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44702, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.231 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44703, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.232 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44704, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.232 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44705, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.233 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44706, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.233 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44707, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.233 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44708, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.234 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44709, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.234 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44710, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.234 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44711, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.235 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44712, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.235 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44713, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.236 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44714, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.236 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44715, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.236 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44716, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.237 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44717, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.237 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44718, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.237 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44719, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.238 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44720, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.238 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44721, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.239 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44722, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.242 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44723, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.242 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44724, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.243 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44725, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.243 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44726, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.243 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44727, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.244 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44728, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.244 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44729, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.244 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44730, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.245 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44731, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.245 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44732, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.245 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44733, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.246 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44734, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.246 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44735, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.246 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44736, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.247 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44737, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.247 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44738, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.247 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44739, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.248 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44740, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.248 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44741, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.248 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44742, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.249 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44743, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.249 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44744, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.249 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44745, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.250 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44746, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.250 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44747, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.250 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44748, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.251 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44749, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.251 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44750, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.251 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44751, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.252 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44752, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.252 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44753, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.252 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44754, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.253 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44755, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.253 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44756, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.253 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44757, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.253 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44758, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.254 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44759, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.254 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44760, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.254 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44761, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.255 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44762, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.255 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44763, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.
12/9 22:23:06.255 e6c SCSI: VAAI C&W: sector 44764, len 1 - miscompare at pos 0.