Well I think I'm to blame for getting this specific info into the forum. I asked for it.
And Aitor: Wow lots of info.

I have to let things sink in.
Some upfront, and maybe silly, questions
1. From info I got: running Starwind as VM in Hyper-V is officially supported. Not VMware. Correct?
2. 4) So I've got two identical nodes ...
Is this RAID-1 the SW raid-1?
3. 'since then I have also received an unreleased (so far) patch from support that ...., but does seem to have helped a little bit'
In what way did it help? Synchronization errors I bet ... but can SW explain what they altered to explain this?
4. If your logging maybe is not sufficient for SW to find out the problem in your specific situation. Does SW have other means, e.g. tool, they use for this purpose?
Greetz Jaap
PS Sorry I hit you
